Dec 26 2010

shopaholics are cute :) [day 213]

I had to go to the grocery store for a couple of things, and as I was walking through the store, I found something that seemed a little off.  Shopaholic wine glasses.  Cute, right?  Not so much.  The definition of a shopaholic is “a compulsive shopper“, also known as “compulsive shopping disorder“.  A person with CSD will buy things they don’t need, cannot pass up a deal on anything and will go into debt to support their habit.  How is it that we think this is cute and should be announced to everyone?

Would we give an alcoholic friend a shopping bag saying they’re an alcoholic?  Cute gift?  I’m pretty sure that would be a disaster.

Too much of anything, even good things, is bad.  Addictions are serious business.  There are intervention programs, rehabilitation programs and usually some life adjustments to prevent relapse.  So why is it that shopping addictions are socially acceptable and encouraged, while drug addicts, sex addicts, gambling addicts and pretty much all other addicts are supposed to kick their addiction?

This makes no sense to me.  Shopping is legal, where drugs are not.  But then again alcohol is legal.  No theory there.  Shopping supports the economy, so maybe that’s why this is okay.  If your addiction gets you in big time debt, just file bankruptcy.  It screws up your credit, but at least you don’t have to pay for most it.  Seriously?  I have a problem with this.  I’ve had debt, and I paid it all off.  I don’t do that anymore.

Shopping will give you a temporary high, just like most other addictions, but with long term affects if you really have a shopping addiction.  Shopping is not bad, but if you or  a friend have a shopping problem, don’t make fun of it, do something about it.  Happiness is not found in the bottom of a bag anymore than in the bottom of a bottle.


Oct 4 2010

ounce for ounce, drugs might be cheaper [day 130]

Today is my oldest son’s birthday.  We had a barbecue for him last night with some of our close friends.  It was great!  So you might be curious, wanting to know what was different about his birthday with the shopping challenge.  Here they are.

Gifts.

I gave him a budget to shop on eBay for his gift from me.  It pained me to hit the “bid now” button, as the thing he wanted seemed extremely overpriced.  It’s a little Lego guy, used, and including shipping was $27.50.  Ouch!  He’s not even 2″ tall!  Ounce for ounce, I think a drug habit might be cheaper than Legos!

He got many other Lego and Star Wars sets for his birthday.  On of his friends got him a set of rechargeable batteries, because of the challenge, I can’t buy any for him.

Paper plates.

I think I might write a book about the social expectation of paper plates.  I don’t use them (see previous blog post) but there’s a cultural presumption that all parties or get togethers must have paper plates.  A few of my friends offered to go get some, then made some funny jokes about shredding and recycling them.  LOL!  Little do they know how I deal with paper towels!  I took out my roll and let them use my version of paper napkins.

I have way more dishes than most people, as I know I won’t use paper plates, and all of my dishes are mismatched.  If one breaks, I buy a replacement at the thrift store and add the broken ones to my mosaic tile bin.  It’s all good.  :)

Theme?

Cole asked for a Lego themed party.  I looked at him and right away he knew.  He said, “…oh yeah, that would be wasteful…”  He wasn’t disappointed either, it just clicked in his head that it’s not necessary and he’s just as happy without all the decorations and extra stuff.

Choices.

My kids get a birthday dinner at the place of their choice.  Of course, Gatti Town was his choice.  He also wanted donuts for his whole class.  I made him choose between the two.  He chose the donuts.  (happy dance!)  That saved me a lot of money and a bunch of silly plastic junk will not be coming home tonight.  (more happy dance…)